In one of Nigeria’s newspapers of Tuesday, February 26, 2008, Agatha Emeadi, a journalist wrote of her encounter with a 81-year-old, Mrs. Funke Arthur Worrey at her Victoria Island, Lagos residence. Her husband, Mr. Steady Arthur Worrey had just died at the age of 87. They were married for 54 years.
Instead of the journalist meeting a crying woman, she met a happy and fulfilled woman. Read what the journalist, Agatha Emeadi wrote about her visit.
“Still very energetic, mama is everywhere this afternoon. As you are speaking with her, she beckons on standby caterers and attendants who would then ask you what you want to eat. While trying to make sure her visitors are all comfortable, a group of women trooped in to condole with the bereaved family. The widow stood up to welcome her guest. They hugged, held onto each other and also patted each other on the back.”
Her explanation as to why she was in high spirit was this; “He left me so much love and happiness. He would not want to see me weep, cry or mourn. He lived a fulfilled life.”
On her reaction on the day he died, she said: “Tears dropped from my eyes, though they were tears of joy. He lived a beautiful life. I am very happy to have married and lived with him all these years. He had love and shared it with people. I will remember him for the rest of my life with love. I will miss his companionship, his petting even in old age. He spoilt me to the point of being rotten.”
Can your spouse have memories like these about you when you are gone? Spouses should not just provide physical comfort for each other. They should provide lots of love. Show emotions of love. Do not be like Saul who did not leave pleasant memories behind for his family and nation.
In your marriage and family life, always remember Proverbs 10:7 that says: “The memory of the just is blessed: but the name of the wicked shall rot.” Do not be a hard husband or wife. Work on yourself. Give out love. Love you!
